I would first of all like to say that in my opinion Transition has a beginning and an end.
I regard transsexualism as a medical condition and transition as a rehabilitative process. I have completed my journey of transition. I am a man with a transsexual history, a history which I am not ashamed of and do not hide from. But these days I choose who, when and where if at any time, to share this history.
Life for me now is everything I ever hoped and dreamt for. I am a happily married man and a father of two wonderful sons. I have also remained with the same employer from the beginning to the end of my transition and as the man I am today. Only last week I was asked if I had any regrets about the decision I made to transition. My response was if I died tomorrow I would do so without regret. I am now a very happy man, completely true to myself and have found an inner peace.
Yes, I am legally married to a very special woman who I love very much. We meet a short time after I had begun my journey. I was open and honest with her from the beginning and notwithstanding my predicament our relationship flourished. The unwavering support she has given me and continues to give me is far beyond what I could put into words.
One thing that must be said is that it is very easy to become so self absorbed in your journey that you can at times take for granted the support and understanding of your partner. They ride the roller coaster with you and at times may be more affected by it than you are.
As I said above, I believe that Transition has a beginning and an end, that one does not spend all their life transitioning. I also believe that when one transitions it is more about a transitioning of public genders than anything else. That transitioning is about the rest of the world realising the truth of who I am and the recognition that comes with this. I have always known myself to be nothing but male despite the fact that a medical professional pronounced to my parents that I was a girl, based on a glance at my genitalia.
I completed my transition many years ago now. Whether to complete public transition or not was never an issue for me. It was a matter of how and when. I have no doubt that I would not have been able to continue my life living the lie that I was forced to for so many years, the life of a man with a body not in harmony with my biological core, that is my brain. I am a very systematic type of man, so I dealt with my transition in the same way. A list was made of everything that was to be completed and prioritised. As each step was completed and ticked off the list, I became more confident about being able to finally be happy and be myself without any pretence. I found that the biggest advantage I had throughout my period of transition (other than my wife) was my honesty and openness to educate the people around me. Many people commented about the fact that I was open, honest and unashamed of myself, which meant that they were given the opportunity to educate themselves. This made them more at ease with my condition and not threatened by it.
I now have a life and a very rewarding one at that. I have never regretted facing my predicament and doing something about it. You are the controller of your own destiny; draw on your own courage and wisdom to change your life. Only you are the one with the ability to do so. Believe in your inner self. The journey may not always be smooth (I know mine was not) but it is well worth it.
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